25 October 2011

"i do"


Usually, when people are asked "what is love?", the probable answers would be that it is a feeling or an emotion or our care for someone, well tell you what.. guuuiiilty! ;) those were my answers too. Well until I learned something different. 

Last Sunday, my mom, brother, sister-in-law and me were having dinner and the question "what is love?" came up in our conversation. It was my brother who brought it up and asked me "what is love?" (it was kind of weird at first but turned out totally awesome) and as all of you know those mentioned above were my answers, right? and I believe I was certain about it then. Then he said, "love is a will of mind" and I was like, "what?". So he told me it was the homily earlier of the priest that Sunday. He explained, that love is a will of mind and not an emotion or a feeling that we most say. As the priest said "you can never like your enemies but you can always love them". Here we can see the distinction between the words like and love. For Like can be associated with our feeling of attraction toward someone or our taking pleasure in or with something, probably temporary whereas to Love, it would fall into the will of our mind whether to work with somebody or for some to strive for their family and love?.... it could last for a loooooong time, as long as we would want it to last. Now I can say that there is love that lasts forever.  (Whew! goose bumps there) You agree with me?

On our way home this evening, my mom and I were talking about the divorce bill here in the Philippines that is still on debate to date.  For what it's worth,  I decided that I'm going against the bill.  In Filipino culture, marriage is regarded as a sacred union and involves a whole lot of risks and I admit at first I don't really believe in that but now I do. I know that in marriage, everything is not always love but I also happen to know that love affects everything. Love comes with respect hand in hand and with these anything could work.

It's always, always good to have options. I've witness a lot of failed marriages and some of the, deserved, couples must have the option to avail of remedies from failed marriages that will pave the way for the attainment of their full development and self-fulfillment and the protection of their human rights. Okay, so it's not that simple, with all the factors to be considered and with the failed marriages we've seen but then let's go back to my main point here, love is something that is a will of our mind. The will of the mind is way too powerful than you think. Whenever you feel that love is fleeting, start fill that will or drive to make things work again. Think again what brought that drive and everything will fall into its right place.

Love is related but we must stand on a common ground, right? I think what the priest said was a good way to think things over. And somehow make it as a starting point to view matters that way. 

PS. Be positive. x)

19 October 2011

dead spot

After days with no access to the internet, I felt like I withdraw myself from the world and was rotting at home. Since there was no net, I took some R & R. Mostly I was in my room. I love my room and the fact that I have everything there. Yes, its like inception. A home within a home. ;) So I had whole body massage(home service of course), tried my own version of "yoga",  watched a couple of tv series, always eating, mani-pedi, read some self-help books and SLEEP, my favorite. ;) With all the things I've done still for some time, I had some boredom moments. And when I'm bored, I eat, and when I eat, I get fat, and when I get fat, I am not happy, so I really did hope that I don't get bored but I did, so I ate..I know, excuses. haha

But now, I'm back, obviously. So I will keep you posted with the happenings. xoxo ;)

18 October 2011

Head Over Heels

name: Jillian Claire Miraflor Lopez
birth date: 26 September 2011     
birthplace: Davao City, PH           
relationship: niece                        

my dearest, dearest, dearest jillian, i'm sooo happy to finally meet you! you have given life so much more meaning! you are such a bundle of joy! you mean so much to your daddy and mommy, lolos and lolas, titos and titas! i will do my best to be the best ninang i can be, and for us, you are the cutest baby in the world! i love you jillian! ♥with all the love in the world,
xoxo, ninang lyka

anyone who knows me knows how in love i am with my goddaughter jillian claire miraflor lopez! actually not just me, but our whoooole family. and when i say whole family i mean the whole family of jillian's dad and mom, and even friends and neighbors! we're all obsessed with our little bundle of joy! we are all crazy about jillian!!!!

call me biased, but jillian is such an adorable baby girl!!!

Get ready for the cute-ness level to rise even more with this picture i am about to share! our family has over a hundred pitures of jillian, but this has got to top the list of my favorite jillian pics!!

fat cheeks!!!! jillian has such fat, kissable, bite-able cheeks!!!! :)

life's simple but priceless pleasures include bonding sessions with jillian..this is me, for the first time, to hold her!

 Confirmed, I am head over heels with jillian!

08 October 2011

let's be clear

For awhile now, I have been very distant to what I supposed to feel. The numbness instilled I hope would disappear. I am scared of everything and I think it hinders me to the possibilities I could become, possibilities I may like or not. All through out I've been told what's the world going to be like, that it's a jungle out there and I have to be very careful. Careful I was, and so I was left behind.  Others may barefaced enjoyed things surely I would not. Bravely, I engaged myself in things that they say I should do but ended up not being happy. Carelessness was the thing lacking, the thing I wish I have. I shouted for help, for I feel like I was in prison of my own body, but no one really cared. No one in this big damn world heard me. The definition of the relationships between me and my so called friends put to test and, unfortunately, they failed, or maybe I was the one who failed in picking my real friends. Blaming was not needed for nature took its course on permitting a reality check for me.

Sometimes the things we pretend just so to fit it in on this imperfectly world becomes our reality. Matters, I always been cautious about to not sink in to me, penetrated my habits and emerged to be my cycle. Being not oneself to thy self is such a big fat lie. Separation can not be happening since our rationality makes us decide what should and should not be done, and we just chose the best thing to decide on, to always go for we think what's right. With this, when mistakes happen and the cruise for undeniably hurtful truth bends in, we are being save from our fantasize reality that we're being drowned from. We all wear masks; everyone, everyday, and sometimes we wear them so much, we forget who we really are.

But right now, I think I can proudly say that I'm alright. I know I can surpass whatever obstacle I will yet, be going through, and I believe that after tears and pain, comes joy and happiness and the only thing I need at the moment is for me to stay happy and surround myself with optimism. I've learned to accept the fact that things can't always go just as I planned it. If something isn't meant for me, it just means that I am capable of gaining something more. I don't need to be miserable all my life just because everything has changed.
"I don't understand how you can smile all day long but cry yourself to sleep all night. How pictures never change but the people in them do. How your best friend can become your worst enemy, or how strange it is when your worst enemy turns into your best friend. How forever turns into a few short months that you'd do almost anything to get back. How you can let go of something you once said you couldn't live without. How even though you know something is best for you, it just hurts the same. How the people who once wanted to spend every second with you, think a few minutes of their time is too much to spare. How people make promises despite knowing how common it is for promises to be broken. How can people can erase you from their lives just because it's easier than working things out."
For whatever I feel right now, I may be detached from everything else or linked, I would always try make my own decisions factored by nobody. I asked myself why I am not on a journey with a blissful ending? the answer to that isn't even that there are better things planned out for me. Its-- I just need to wait patiently for the perfect time. Everything will soon fall into place. And then I might be happy.

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